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Assertiveness and self-confidence is a learned skill, and to many, it just doesn’t come naturally to stand up for oneself or to assert a particular belief without fear or aggression. However, these two important soft skills are extremely crucial in your life and in cultivating a successful career.
Knowing your self-worth
We are quite often our own worst enemies when it comes to self-doubt and negativity. While you may not think much about constantly working overtime or missing out on promotions, it is important to understand that there needs to be a bit of give and take, not to mention balance.
The interesting thing about assertiveness and self-confidence is the fact that the two are linked. When you start to become more assertive, then you will also find you become more self-confident as a natural result.
Remember you are worth it! Rid yourself of any negativity and reaffirm your positive worth and value as often as necessary until you believe in it. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect – especially YOU!
Look the part
Even if you feel like you are not oozing with confidence, there are some things you can do to come across more assertive and ultimately more confident. Body language plays a huge part in this.
If you walk tall with head held high and shoulders back, you will instantly take on an air of superiority. Maintain regular eye contact when speaking with individuals and don’t forget to breathe.
Practice in front of the mirror and record yourself to spot any negative facial expressions or body movements. Avoid crossing your arms or legs to minimise any signs of aggression. Always be polite but firm when discussing your goals and needs with others.
Sound the part
Once you look the part, then you can begin to work on sounding the part. To do this, understand exactly what it is you want and be totally clear with your goals and communication. Write down a script of sorts and practice it so you have a rough idea of where the conversation may take you. Try not to rush through it and speak clearly and concisely without mumbling.
To sound more confident, avoid the use of the term “we”. Instead opt for more confident sounding “I” statements such as “I feel”, “I believe” or “I need” to reaffirm your growing inner confidence.
Think about your posture and try to strike an empathetic yet firm stance and recognise that while you may not be successful every time you assert yourself, you are most certainly heading in the right direction. The more you practice being assertive, the more you will improve. It’s a win-win situation, whichever way you look at it.
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